First Date Questions; Where to Start?

I’ve had my fair share of dating experiences over the years, and if there’s one piece of advice I’d pass on, it’s this: ask about the things that truly matter to you. Why? Because those early conversations can reveal whether you’re on the same wavelength or heading in different directions.

For instance, very early on, I always like to ask, “What’s your ideal holiday?” If their answer is something like, “Laying on a beach for a week doing absolutely nothing,” I’m pretty much clocked out already. Don’t get me wrong, I love a sunny spot, but I’d rather be zip-lining through a forest. I’ll do the decent thing and follow up with a few more questions to see if other things that matter to me are on their radar, but deep down, I’m already considering if this is a match worth pursuing.

It’s not about needing to be clones of each other (in fact, it’s healthier if you’re not!), but as discussed in the my recent podcast ‘From matchmaking to marriage‘ I believe that a great relationship is built when two people share the same spirit.